Posted by Six Gun on January 09, 2010 at 01:33 [76.93.9.21]
I was wondering if the folks here could offer some advice. I've recently asked my girlfriend of 13 years to marry me, and she has said yes. She has always been diaper-tolerant of me, and would even wear and mess them for me sometimes. But ever since she got that ring on her finger, things have changed drastically. (As I'm sure all women are prone to do). Now, rather than being tolerant and even participatory, she has become somewhat disgusted and repulsed by the idea. I promised her a while ago after she pouted and complained the whole time when I put her in a diaper that I would never ask her to do it again. I was mostly blowing smoke and waiting for the reassurance that it was okay to ask her again. But she called my bluff and seemed relieved that I wouldn't ask her. I gave the concession I wouldn't ask her to participate if she would at least let me enjoy them on my own. She agreed to that, but now when she comes home and even hears that I am wearing a diaper, (she doesn't see it, but she KNOWS), she rolls her eyes and gets into this mood where it's almost like she is repulsed by me and doesn't want to be around me. As you all know, being a DL is not really something you can just "give up". Sure, I could give it up, but I would be miserable, and what's really the point in that then? But if I continue to wear them, she seems to lose respect for me. My question is, can a marriage survive this? I do my best to make them less and less noticeable, but it doesn't matter. She doesn't seem to appreciate that. I would love to just run around the house in a diaper and T-shirt, but I know that won't happen. She makes me feel ashamed of myself when she treats me like that, so I go a long time between wearings, but during those times I can get depressed, quick to anger, and anxious. So its like, I'm making a concession to wear discreetly, wear infrequently, and not disturb her with them. What concessions has she made? I'm just wondering if others have tried to live like this and if they have found a solution that makes them both happy, or if one cannot truly be happy without a wife/husband that supports his/her AB/DL lover. Thank you for your time.