Posted by L.E. on September 10, 2004 at 14:53 [12.144.5.5]
In Reply to: Diapers posted by Sarah on September 09, 2004 at 12:03
Not sure you'll read this as you haven't responded to any posts on this thread.
Anyway,there is no sure answer and only your experiencing it will tell you whether wearing diapers is something you will enjoy.This doesn't necessarily mean you'd be sharing his experience.As I said before,someone who wears them sometimes and for fun is not experiencing the same thing as someone who wears them always out of necessity.And the difference may grate on him if that's what you do.And I don't know if you want to wear diapers full-time,or to the point that you do learn to need them.
Sometimes people post here saying they would like to learn to lose control completely,and sometimes those who actually have no control respond saying the wannabe-incontinents don't know what they're talking about and might regret it.This doesn't necessarily mean that they are right...people who lose bladder control involuntarily typically would not have wanted to,and their experience may not be representative of that of someone who wanted to lose control.Just as most people who lose limbs are NOT amputation fetishists.Of course,I don't know if losing control and needing diapers would thrill you or make you miserable,and you are unlikely to know either without at least sampling the experience of being in wet diapers.And it has to be said that this effort to share an experience with your boyfriend may actually create a difference between you,if he can not be happy about needing diapers and you find that it's something that does make you happy.
Since you say you just found out that he wears them,I gather that you don't live together?With respect to finding out whether the experience of wearing diapers is indeed fun for you,though you say you want to wear them "with him" and "together",his reaction so far may mean that your experimentation has to start when not with him.That can let you find out whether you want to raise the issue with him again.
Get diapers.Wear diapers.See how they affect the way you move,see what clothes they hide under and what clothes make them obvious.Sleep with them on.And try using them.It may take time to get over the inhibitions but the first wetting is the hardest.See what a wet diaper feels like,see what masturbating through a wet diaper feels like.Familiarize yourself with the powders and wipes and disinfectants used to keep the feel of wet diapers turning to the sting of diaper rash.Of course wetting a diaper on purpose is not what he does or generally can do,so it's still not sharing his experience.Remember that he wakes up in a wet diaper every morning and has no choice in that.If you want to wet in your sleep it would probably take you months,first getting over wetting while you're lying down,then training yourself to yield to the urge at night so it doesn't wake you up.And only you can decide whether that's a path you want to travel.Losing control in the daytime would require even more conscious abandonment of
resistance.And you have to understand these might be one-way streets,though you're unlikely to get to that point if your inhibitions are enough to stop you from losing control in the first place.
Again...the only way of knowing how far down the diaper road you'd be comfortable travelling is trying it,the answer is in every person's experience.Personally I have no desire to use diapers (see the thread I started below).Perhaps you'll try it briefly and write it off as a learning experience you're glad you quit,perhaps it will be such a turnon that you'll want it a permanent part of your life with this boyfriend or any other.Either way,I encourage you to find out.And thanks for asking and for being interested.
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