Posted by S on September 13, 2004 at 09:03 [206.135.227.190]
In Reply to: Partner participation posted by John UK ad Lon SE on September 13, 2004 at 06:08
Life is full of compromises. I made a point of telling my second wife so that there would be no secrets. At first she tried to support me, even to the point of wearing a diaper, but I could tell she had no interest and I did not push the fact. In discussion, it became apparent there were things my wife liked, and then life became a compromise, we spent a lot of time on what made her feel good and special, and then she encouraged me to express myself.
Over the years this has strained the relationship but in reality no more than any other real life circumstance. We have built a life around love and respect, and I know my wife finds what I do strange and certainly not fullfilling to her, but she knows what it means to me, and I will always love her for that. Besides being told that I stink and stay away does actually add to the thrill
In my experience women have their needs too, and whatever they are, listen, understand and respect.
Just as an aside Kimmie you are a font of knowledge and humour, never change, I have always admired you from afar. Power to you and all our female friends, users, or willing or not willing partners.
Always try and be who you are, and listen to who your partners are as well