Posted by The Voice Of Reason on September 21, 2004 at 04:28 [213.123.247.222]
In Reply to: I just talked to him posted by Sarah on September 20, 2004 at 12:50
OK I said some of this on another post but no harm in saying it again.
What's your motivation for telling a bunch of guys about this, Sarah? Are you genuinely looking for male advice? Or are you taking the piss out of us men, parading yourself in front of us in a "you can look but you can't touch" type way 'cos it turns you on knowing a bunch of guys are slobbering over ya lol?!
If you're genuinely upset and looking for advice, then here is my advice: you can't have it both ways. Either you're a diaper wearer/adult baby, call it what you like; or you're a "normal" dry girl. Nobody can decide where your heart lies apart from YOU. So you wanna be normal? Then ditch the diapers and make up with your guy.
But if you decide your heart lies with diapers then stop snivelling about your piece-of-shit boyfriend and get over him. Celebrate your new-found freedom and liberation, and open your mind to the wonders of what lies in store for you.
Look I know I probably sound like a callous jerk, but I've been thru this myself. I had to decide whether to pursue the diaper thing further or whether to try to suppress it for the sake of a relationship that was going nowhere. Basically, I wasted a lot of time trying to hold onto something that was doomed. If only I had been stronger, tougher and more self-confident about my DL side right from the beginning then I wouldn't have taken a year to make that break from a woman who didn't really love the real me, a woman who always wanted me to act like a "real man" rather than express my vulnerability and inner child. Well, in the long run, I chose my inner child over my ex. I had to, it was the honest thing to do..
So now I'm free and I know I made the right decision. I feel from what you're saying that you HAVE to let this guy go (yeah yeah I would say that, I'm a man!). Tell him to go fuck himself!
Well, you asked for advice, you got it. And to repeat another point I made elsewhere...if you genuinely don't want to be bombarded by over-eager guys, then don't walk into a room full of men conveying an impression of helpless femininity. This is the internet, a place of fantasy where you can present yourself in whatever way you want. The way you've been presenting yourself is obviously gonna make men weak at the knees (girl getting into diapers has just split up from boyfriend and is looking for male advice/sympathy). Nobody can blame heterosexual men for getting excited by that, it's our fantasy! One would have to be very very naive not to realise the effect that such an alluring series of messages would have. So be streetwise!
Take care and good luck
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