Posted by DR on July 15, 2005 at 21:51 [67.83.76.91]
In Reply to: Psychologists posted by steve-wa on July 15, 2005 at 07:12
Steve-wa, psychologists treat based on their training. A Freudian would likely use psychoanalysis, dream interpretation and word association to understand the roots of your diaper desires, and would build a greater understanding from there. Psychoanalysis can be effective, but typically requires years and years of therapy. Another downside is that it regards fetishes as aberrant defense mechanisms which could not be considered "normal" or "healthy" under any circumstance. In sum, you may find the psychoanalytical approach judgmental, time consuming and costly.
Conversely, behavioral psychology requires significantly less time and expense. A behaviorist will confront the stimulus directly as a way of changing your responses. While often successful in "curing" phobias, behavioral psychology has an unimpressive track record in cases attempting to "cure" homosexuality or other fetishes.
Client-centered psychology might be the best approach for people with kinks. The psychologist helps the client become "who s/he wants to be" through empathy, a non-judgmental attitude, and an overwhelming positive regard for the client. However, client-centered psychology neither explores one's fetish roots, nor directly addresses the behaviors, nor helps effect change quickly. Expect this type of therapy to take years of work.
There are many other schools of psychological thought, and you should know the difference among them before choosing a psychologist. But the above are three of the most widely used.
A final note about psychology and your diaper desires -- regard psychology with a grain of salt. Remember, psychology is only a 160 year old quasi-scientific practice with very limited understanding of human behavior, while kink is a millennia old consensual practice enjoyed universally. It is surprising then that most psychologists should consider kink deviant with such limited data at hand. It’s the moral equivalent of a 2-year old telling his 85-year old grandfather how he should act and think and behave.
Only you can decide if a psychologist is the right approach for you, but before you do, you might consider that the value judgments you place on your diaper desires are rooted deeply in the history of thousands of years of sexual control, sex-negativism, fear and ignorance. Though these forces are powerful and difficult to extricate from our attitudes even in modern times, these beliefs do not in-and-of-themselves make diaper desires wrong. That you feel bad or insecure or lonely or deviant (fill in the adjective) is not a function of your diaper desires themselves, but is a function of the way you *perceive* your diaper desires.
So before you step into that psychologist's office, consider that your perceptions about yourself and your diaper desires might be worth changing.
Best wishes that you find happiness with yourself, whatever you decide.
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