Posted by dad2u on November 12, 2009 at 18:13 [75.38.65.101]
In Reply to: new and confused posted by tilly on November 10, 2009 at 18:05
To many people, outside of the AB Community, the Daddy / BabyGirl relationship might appear one sided. To me, the level of trust a BabyGirl has in her daddy to care for her most basic and intimate needs, more then makes up for it. She gets someone who keeps her safe, helps her deal with issues from her past that may have held her back in life, teaches her how to express herself and have her needs met, instead of putting her "all" into relationships and hoping the other person reciprocates, etc. As you can see, most of my past BabyGirls lost out on their childhood because of abuse. For them, the Daddy/BabyGirl relationship is a real chance to learn what they missed out on the first time, and to deal with the issues that the abuse has left them with. What do I get out of this ? All the Hugs, 'Fridge art, and Memories I could ever want !! but for me it's also a chance to take the hurt and abuse I had growing up and put it to practical use helping others. Im that respect I feel the relationships are a win- win.
I would suggest you look real hard and see if you can identify when this "lil side" of you developed. Sometimes it's just as simple as feeling you lost attention to another sibling, a break in your parents marriage that forced you to "grow up" ...... other times it's something worse. I think most everyone has a lil side to them, and that's a good thing, especially when life gets a lil too serious.. But, if this lil side gets to be the predominate side- then maybe it's time to look deeper. Let me know if I can be of any help.
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