Posted by GentleDad on July 15, 2010 at 06:05 [174.54.32.108]
In Reply to: Safety and Consistency posted by Tilly on July 15, 2010 at 00:09
I see dark clouds here.
Your daddy has been going all this time in your relationship without asking for or getting something he wants. It is not important what that thing is, it is only important that has he has not said it, and he has entered into a relationship where it was plainly agreed that it would not be forthcoming.
He will want to argue why he wants, needs, and deserves the sadistic part. Do not argue this part with him, because you can't win. Admit that he is 100% entitled to the sadistic part. Just not with you. Stick to the issue of basic honesty and the contract you both agreed to. If he wants to write a new contract, that's fine, but in that case, he needs a different Little Girl.
Be big Tilly, because little Tilly is in danger of being run over.
Stick to your guns. You will deepen and no one will be able to take that away. If he can join you, he will deepen also and your relationship will deepen. If he cannot follow you and will not be led, your relationship will end.
If you cannot imagine life without him, then you will compromise, and he will win. This is what he is gambling on.
I learned something once in difficult surroundings. It's this: No one can take away your dignity and your self-respect. You may choose to give them up, but no one can take them from you.
You can arrange things so that you will emerge better and stronger. You cannot arrange things so that he will. He may choose to, but you cannot bring it about on your own.
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