Posted by Haemon on August 25, 2010 at 02:02 [75.83.171.216]
In Reply to: Re: Why? posted by pantiespooper on August 24, 2010 at 18:50
"In other words, you must NOT put all of your focus on his happiness, you have to have some for yourself. Many couples break up because he wants HER to do special things, but does not fully participate himself (or vice versa)..."
PP I remembered why I like you so much! This is a thousand percent correct and I've lost a girlfriend (a long time ago) to this exact problem. Since then I've really come to terms with how rare this fetish is in women, and all of my serious romantic relationships come with carte blanche when it comes to sexplay-- if she participates in this, I'll participate in anything she wants me to that is legal and won't hurt permanently.
I think I only said she should focus on how happy she's making her man in order to take her mind off of how disgusting she might feel from the act itself. You're right, sacrificing your own happiness for the happiness of another isn't what I was alluding to and should be avoided.
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