Posted by A friend on October 05, 2006 at 22:07 [70.126.92.28]
In Reply to: My husband posted by Jemma on October 02, 2006 at 15:05
Jemma,
You're right, lots of people that are into this fetish really have no clue why it exists in their life. Others have found peace using diapers for relaxation purposes, sexual and otherwise. I've been married nearly 20 years now, and my wife and I have managed to integrate diapers into many aspects of our relationship, with no loss of dignity on either of our parts. We play together using "diaper themes" and we have outdoor diaper fun whenever she suggests it (trips to the movies, groceries, etc.). My suggestion for you is to have some long hard conversations about what the diapers mean to him, and what he "expects" from you and I suggest you let him know what you expect from him. Then, I suggest, you try playing around with them a bit - dressing him up for household duties, etc. Lock the doors and close the window shades and let him run around in a diaper only, or a t-shirt and a diaper, etc. If you've got kids, then make sure they won't be privvy to any of your "play" and make sure that you don't get caught under any circumstances, by anyone. That being said, have fun with it, if you can. If your husband is a loving man, then I'd expect him to understand your needs fully, too. I'd expect him to be willing to do things that you want to do, sexual and otherwise, in a sort of balance of loving actions. Dressing him up for a month straight isn't going to "get it out of his system", I can pretty much guarantee that. And if he expects to be a baby forever, well, he can pretty well forget that, too. We are adults. We dress in baby clothes to relax and get comforted. Obviously, it has sexual aspects to it that you can have fun with. Finally, if you just find the whole idea totally repugnant, and don't think you love the man anymore, then you probably know what the next step is anyway, and don't need any of us to comment on it.
One last thought, by posting here, and being a relative "newbie" to diaper related boards, etc., watch out for the wise guys that offer nothing in the way of help or assistance. To them, you are a troll (someone, probably a male diaper lover, "posing" as a wife, looking for answers) and nothing more. They assume you are looking for something to masturbate to, and thus, you created this story about your husband. You'll have to wade through their tripe to get real answers to the questions you pose. Keep the faith and remember, time will be the real test of your faith to each other. If you can get over him not telling you before, then you can get over his wearing frilly things. I personally don't quite understand the guys that want to dress as baby girls, figuring that diapers on top of transvetism is like a double dose of fantasy, but I don't have any other issues with any of them in particular, except when they determine that my tastes are particularly weird. Remember, it's a diaper board... we all wear diapers and congregate here. No one should be too critical of anyone else here, unless they are just plain rude, belligerent, or obnoxious. I hope I have been none of those.
Good luck in your future, and know that you can deal with this and still have a great life together.
JB
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