Posted by chris on January 26, 1999 at 08:39
This is the first time I have posted here, or anywhere except at work.
I have been recovering from a car accident (March last year), in which I damaged L1 - L4 (vertebra), and pelvis. All 'clean' breaks, and full movement back after hydrotherapy etc.
I am back at work 2 days per week, to gently ease back into it.
Here is the problem, and why I am looking around the net under 'adult wetting' etc and found this.
I had a catheter etc for a long time, then help with toileting. My wife who si very supportive, continued the help (getting me on the toilet etc.)
I had some problems at first even after I started walking again without crutches. Dr says that is to be expected, and wetting will gradually disappear, certainly during the day, and at night too.
But as I am getting better at control, I find that I want to go back to being helped. I have a schedule for daytime, and a regime to be dry at night. I am cheating on both, now that I can get to toilet unaided.
I have had some demi-on purpose wets at night, and I have gone back to wearing what I had after coming home at first. The Dr said that I amy find myself going back a little for a while, as I adjusted to the routine of going to work, getting tired etc.
My wife suggested that I don't worry too much about it, that she was happy to have a protective sheet and me in adult Depends and a Kylie pad under the sheet at night. That was about three weeks ago, and for the last week I have had towelling nappies and plastic pants at night, becuase the cost of disposables was getting too high.
I have been having accidents at home during the day, and twice last week at work. The second time I had to ring my wife because I had wet both Depends I took to work. She was not too fussed, and when we got home I had a shower and she brought out the night nappies, to save money if I wet again.
That was the first time I have worn proper nappies during the day. I felt like a toddler, and when I wet them again, and told Sally, she was very tender about it and we ended up making love, better than ever, almost.
This week has a holiday in it, and I haven't been to work yet. Sally said I should stay home this week, just relax and not worry about anything. I have been wearing a tracksuit, or some sloppy long pants of Sally's over the nappy, and we have made love several times. (Normally only a few times each month)
Without talking about it, I feel like we are starting something new. I feel different, and Sally is behaving differently towards me. Not bad, very caring and good, in fact.
I am still walking slowly, and this morning I wet while we were walking back from a neighbour's house, with the neighbour. Because I knew that she knew, and Sally talked in frront of her about changing my pants, I got excited and upset at the same time.
I am worried about what to tell the Dr. Sally says we should just wait a while, and things will work out.
I have not dared to mention what I have found on the net to her, about adults enjoying wetting their pants.
Who should I tackle first - the Dr, Sally, or what? Sally's mother thinks that I have still got some problems from teh injury (Sally got the towelling from her) and my mother is no longer alive.
I tried the Continence Advisory Bureau (South Aust) but they are medical only, not psychological.
I want to keep wearing them, and I like being treated like a toddler by Sally. Am I in psychological trouble? Any similar experiences?
Chris
Email: sally_preston@hotmail.com