Posted by JustAnotherGuy on August 02, 2005 at 01:43 [86.132.60.188]
In Reply to: The odd relationship between BDSM and diapers. posted by BrianInSF on August 01, 2005 at 23:45
I've given it a little thought, but reading your post has certainly put a new spin on it. I think my initial thoughts are that as you have said, you are taking away one of, if not the, most basic right we have as individuals; I don't think there are any BDSMer's out there without *any* limits, or a safe word, it stands to reason. Thos limits have to be put somewhere, so it seems they're drawn at basic bodily functions, lumped in with breathing and eating, about that sort of level, IMO. Of course, there's asphyxiation fetish, and food fetish indulgers, but they're not linked too heavily with BDSM either - well, not the latter anyway, having seen the gas masks and breathing apparatus type BDSM outfits...
So, my analysis would be that it's just where the lines are drawn. I'm vey open minded, and believe in free will of the individual, barring negative implications for others, hence don't see any problem with this if both partners are consensual.
Try and see this from both perspectives though, what about the sub? From their point of view, this is enjoyable because they're giving control to their master, perhaps it's not the quantity of control they give to their master, it's *what* they give - some people might find being blindfolded particularly sensual as it deprives them of one sense and forces them to use another; I can't empathise with the mobility thing, personally, as I'm not a BDSMer, but I think maybe the diapers / nappies aspect of it is a step too far or in the wrong direction for most BDSM fans? Maybe just as I can't empathise with the BDSM crowd on certain things, they can't empathise with the safe feelings or security of a nappy? I think alot of it would just be down to personal likes / dislikes. Of course, you never know you like something until you try it... ;)
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